What isn’t consent?

No one is “asking” to be raped. Ever.

The perpetrator is solely responsible for the choice he/she made to commit sexual violence.

Just because she is wearing a short skirt doesn’t mean you can have sex with her.
Clothing is not a sign of consent. Sexual violence happens to people regardless of what they are wearing.

Just because she enjoys sex doesn’t mean she wants to have sex with you.
It does not matter who someone has had sex with in the past, or how many partners he/she’s had. Past sexual encounters do not imply consent for future encounters.

Just because he consented to oral sex doesn’t mean he wants to have vaginal sex.
Consenting to one sex act doesn’t mean he/she consents to another.

Just because she was walking at night doesn’t mean she is asking for it.
Sexual violence is not the victim’s fault. Sexual violence is a choice that is made by a perpetrator, and by the perpetrator only.

Just because you had sex with her doesn’t mean she wants to have sex again.
Consent does not transfer from one encounter to another. Someone may consent to sex one day, and not consent the next day. The same is true for couples, spouses, long term partners, or former partners.

Just because he doesn’t say no doesn’t mean he is saying yes.
Consent is not the “default” response to a sexual proposition. Laying still in fear, shock, or silence is not consent. Consent must be voluntary, clear, and given in a safe environment.

Just because he is gay doesn’t mean he is asking for it.
Sexual orientation is not an invitation for sex. Just because someone enjoys having sex with people of a certain gender or genders doesn’t mean he/she wants to have sex with you.