Dating Violence Dynamics – Stalking

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• WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE

  The abuser controls a victim by:

  • Following their victim, showing up in public spaces where the victim is, waiting for the victim outside of classrooms, clubs, school events, or friends’ places
  • Using social networking sites to find out where the victim is, who he/she is with, and what he/she is doing
  • Making repeated phone calls, leaving text messages and voice messages, and messages online to the victim
  • Harassing or threating the victim using any of the above tactics

• HOW IT FEELS FOR THE VICTIM

  When an abuser stalks victim, a victim may experience:

  • Fear leaving home
  • Psychological trauma as a result of the abuse
  • Fear of the abuser or others
  • Shame, guilt, responsibility, or embarrassment
  • No sense of privacy
  • Fear of going somewhere that will anger the abuser

• IMPACT ON VICTIM

  Stalking can:

  • Cause problems focusing in school, which can lead to a decline in grades or withdrawals
  • Alienate victims from their friends, school groups, sorority/fraternity, or team
  • Alienate victims by forcing them to stay in one place

• CONSEQUENCES FOR ABUSER

  Dating violence is a crime. If you abuse a partner, you face:

  • A ruined reputation
  • Conviction and jail time
  • Expulsion or suspension from the university.
  • Suspension from sports teams
  • Disciplinary action from your fraternity or sorority
  • Alienation from friends and family
  • Costs from court fees and restitution