Dating Violence Dynamics – Physical Violence

Click the boxes to learn more about the detrimental effects of physical abuse.

  • WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE

      The abuser controls a victim by:

    • Hitting (punching, slapping, etc.)
    • Kicking
    • Choking or strangling
    • Biting
    • Holding down or restraining
    • Using a weapon (stabbing, shooting, hitting with a bat or stick)
  • HOW IT FEELS FOR THE VICTIM

      When an abuser uses physical abuse to control a victim, a victim may experience:

    • Physical pain from injuries
    • Psychological trauma as a result of the attack or attacks
    • Fear of the abuser or others
    • Shame, guilt, responsibility, or embarrassment
    • Fear of leaving the abuser
  • IMPACT ON VICTIM

      Physical abuse can:

    • Cause problems focusing in school, which can lead to a decline in grades or withdrawals
    • Alienate victims from their friends, family, school groups, sorority/fraternity, or team
    • Prevent students from participating in clubs or athletics
    • Cost students money in non-refunded tuition, housing relocation, and medical bills
  • CONSEQUENCES FOR ABUSER

      Dating violence is a crime. If you abuse a partner, you face:

    • Conviction and jail time
    • Expulsion or suspension from the university
    • Suspension from sports teams
    • Disciplinary action from your fraternity or sorority
    • Alienation from friends and family
    • Costs from court fees and restitution
    • A ruined reputation
IS IT A CRIME? CLICK TO FIND OUT.
Aaron and Deborah have been dating since high school, and are now in college together. Deborah is in the college marching band. Practices run late, and Deborah travels out of town for football games. Aaron demands that Deborah quit marching band, and spend more time with him. Deborah does not want to quit, and tells Aaron he is being ridiculous. Aaron punches Deborah in the face and tells her that he will “keep her in line.” Then Aaron starts to cry and apologizes.

THIS IS BATTERY. THIS IS A CRIME.